What Happens in Heaven when we PRAY?

I dreamt that I went to Heaven and an angel was showing me around. We walked side-by-side inside a large workroom filled with angels. My angel guide stopped in front of the first section and said, “This is the Receiving Section. Here, all petitions to God said in prayer are received.”

I looked around in this area, and it was terribly busy with so many angels sorting out petitions written on voluminous paper sheets and scraps from people all over the world.

Then we moved on down a long corridor until we reached the second section.

The angel then said to me, “This is the Packaging and Delivery Section. Here, the graces and blessings the people asked for are processed and delivered to the living persons who asked for them.” I noticed again how busy it was there. There were many angels working hard at that station, since so many blessings had been requested and were being packaged for delivery to Earth.

Finally at the farthest end of the long corridor we stopped at the door of a very small station. To my great surprise, only one angel was seated there, idly doing nothing. “This is the Acknowledgment Section,” my angel friend quietly admitted to me. He seemed embarrassed.

“How is it that there is no work going on here?” I asked.

“So sad,” the angel sighed. “After people receive the blessings that they asked for, very few send back acknowledgments.”

“How does one acknowledge God’s blessings?” I asked.

“Simple,” the angel answered. Just say, “Thank you, Lord.”

“What blessings should they acknowledge?” I asked.

“If you have food in the refrigerator, clothes on your back, a roof overhead and a place to sleep you are richer than 75% of this world.

If you have money in the bank, in your wallet, and spare change in a dish, you are among the top 8% of the world’s wealthy, and if you get this on your own computer, you are part of the 1% in the world who has that opportunity.”

“If you woke up this morning with more health than illness.. You are more blessed than the many who will not even survive this day.”

“If you have never experienced the fear in battle, the loneliness of imprisonment, the agony of torture, or the pangs of starvation… You are ahead of 700 million people in the world.”

“If you can attend a church without the fear of harassment, arrest, torture or death you are envied by, and more blessed than, three billion people in the world.”

“If your parents are still alive and still married…. you are very rare.”

“If you can hold your head up and smile, you are not the norm, you’re unique to all those in doubt and despair…….”

“Ok,” I said. “What now? How can I start?”

The Angel said, “If you can read this message, you just received a double blessing in that someone was thinking of you as very special and you are more blessed than over two billion people in the world who cannot read at all.”

Have a good day, count your blessings, and if you care to, pass this along to remind everyone else how blessed we all are.

 

ATTN:   Acknowledgment Dept.

“Thank you Lord, for giving me the ability to share this message and for giving me so many wonderful people with whom to share it.”

If you have read this far, and are thankful for all that you have been blessed with, how can you not send it on?

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The One Belief That Is Holding Back Your Career – Fred Kofman

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Your job is not your job.

Your job is not what you do, but the goal you pursue.

Yet most professionals I know limit their careers believing that their job is what they do. When I ask them, “What’s your job?” They give me answers such as, “I run sales,” “I look after operations,” “I manage HR,” “I develop new products.”

So did I. I was a teacher. My job was to teach. Or so I thought.

What’s Your Goal?

Human action is behavior with a purpose. A person acts because she wants to bring about a future she desires, a future she believes will not come to pass without her effort.

The value of an action lies in its contribution to the actor’s goal.

I learned this thanks to the work of Ludwig Von Mises, long after I got my Ph.D. in Economics. Until I read Human Action I had never asked myself what future I was trying to bring about through teaching.

But in a flash of humbling insight I realized that teaching is irrelevant; what matters is helping others learn.

That realization changed my career, and my life. I stopped teaching and started helping my students learn; I stopped advising and started helping my clients succeed.

How would you change your job description (and your Linkedin profile) if instead of your role you focused on you goal?

But this shift would not be enough to maximize your value. If you are a member of an organization, your individual goal is not your real goal.

Soccer Anyone?

If you play defense, what’s your job?

Not to defend, because you job is not what you do but the goal you pursue.

So your job must be to prevent the other team from scoring, right?

Wrong.

What’s the goal of the team?

To win.

What’s the goal of each and every player in the team?

To help the team to win.

Imagine you are losing one zero with five minutes to play. Would you go on the offensive? Or would you stay back arguing, “My job is to prevent the other team from scoring, not to score”?

I bet you’d attack, because you know that your real job is to help your team to win.

Your real job is not to defend. Defending is how you generally do your job, but not always. At times, attacking is how you best help the team to win.

Your value as a player is your contribution to your team’s success. If you think that your job is anything else than helping your team to win, you will lower your value and limit your career.

Business Anyone?

Your real job is to help your organization accomplish its mission. Your job description describes how you generally do this. But “generally” does not mean “necessarily.” At times, you must sacrifice your personal goal (the lower) to promote the organizational goal (the higher).

If you are to reach your full potential as a professional, you must never place “your job” above the organizational goal. Otherwise, you will commit a sacrilege, giving up the organizational goal to pursue your personal goal.

Your value as an employee is your contribution to your organization’s success. That’s why in order to win, you must subordinate to the team.

There are times when a defender must go on the offensive, even at the risk of a counter-attack. If not, the team will underperform. Worse yet, defense and offense will play against each other instead of align against the opposition.

Take a profit-maximizing company. If salespeople maximize revenue, they may focus on high-revenue, low-profit opportunities. If production people minimize cost, they may focus on low-cost, low-profit opportunities.

If the highest revenue products have the highest costs and lower profit margins than mid-revenue ones, and the lowest cost products have the lowest revenue and lower profit margins than mid-cost ones, revenue-maximizers will clash with cost-minimizers.

Unless all members of the organization understand that the common goal and sole measure of success is to maximize profit, they will not work together; they will not play to win.

Tearing Down the Silos Is An Inside Job

Every client I’ve had has asked me to help them “break down the organizational silos to improve collaboration.” A typical example was a financial services company where defense, I mean credit managers, had the goal of minimizing unrecoverable debt. Meanwhile, offense, I mean business managers, had the goal of maximizing return on assets. “You are imprudent, your credit standards are too loose!” complained the ones. “You are overly conservative, your credit standards are too tight!” decried the others. Not surprisingly, the company was not doing well.

It is tempting to fault compensation systems for organizational misalignment. Irrational performance metrics certainly bear much of the blame. But even the best system will not solve the problem. It is impossible to align a complex organization through financial incentives. (I will show this in my next post.)

Organizational alignment requires leadership, culture, and clarity of purpose. It demands that you, and every one of your colleagues, drop the limiting belief that you were hired to do your jobs.

So what will you tell the next person that asks you, “What’s your job?”

Believe in Your Capacity To Make Money

 

Remember that your perception of yourself is your reality.

How you define yourself will be how you will act.  If you believe that you’re lazy, inept, weak, dim-witted individual—that’s how you will act.  Your definition of yourself are self-fulfilling prophecies.  Why?  Because as human beings, one of our greatest needs is consistency.  You will find yourself acting consistently with your self-concept and self-definition.

My most vivid experience with this incredible truth came during my student life many years ago.

All my life, I defined myself as a C-student.  My most sublime goal in school was to get a grade passed 75%.  Why?  Because that was my self-concept.  I never saw myself as academic, studious, or intelligent.  That wasn’t me…

But something happened along the way.  On my third year in college, I had to quit to work full-time for a community project.  One day, someone asked me if I wanted to take up post-graduate studies in theology as night classes.  I told him I wasn’t qualified because I wasn’t a college graduate.  But when the Dean of the school talked to me and learned of my volunteer work, he said I could take the course if I wanted to.  They’d just keep my Masters diploma until I finish my college degree.

But in those classes, I was surrounded by priests, nuns, and seminarians, and my mind was challenged.

And my paradigm-shift took place after my first exam.  Our professor wrote down on the blackboard the five top students of the test.  I wasn’t even paying attention until someone tapped my shoulder to take a look.  I found my name in number one position, beside the words, “perfect score”.  I couldn’t believe my eyes.

After class, I remained glued to my seat, still gazing at that blackboard.  My whole being was in shock.  “You mean all this time,” I reprimanded myself, “I was wrong?  That I can be bright?”

That day changed my life.  My self-concept was transformed forever.  I went through that Masters program picking A’s every time I took an exam.  I then went back to the last two years of my college years with vengeance.  Whatever class I took, be it statistics, science, philosophy, or literature, I was in the honors list. I was a changed man!

Let me go back to my main topic: Ayn Randsays, Wealth is the product of man’s capacity to think.  If in your thinking, you believe that you can’t earn enough money for your family, then you won’t.  If you see yourself as a C-employee or worse, an F-businessman, then that’s what you will be.  If this is your self-concept, then that’ll be your life forever.  Sometimes, people are trapped in a vicious cycle of poverty, handed down in their families from one generation to another.  Their very family identity is indelibly wedged and welded with poverty.  They see themselves, define themselves, describe themselves as poor.  I’ve seen this phenomenon so many times in my work, I think it’s an epidemic.

I am totally convinced that we are limited by our own core beliefs, and if we have small beliefs about ourselves, then we will remain small forever.

But if you believe in your heart that you can create money, then you can.

Your Creator has given you this capacity to earn money—for yourself, for your family, for your Life-Dreams.  Use it!

Create a paradigm shift for yourself right now.

Believe in your capacity to make money.

Write a financial goal for yourself for the next year.  No, don’t just think about it—write it down!  And then let your mind stretch and plan how you can make that goal a reality.

May your dreams come true,

Bo Sanchez

IMPORTANCE OF ATTITUDE

“Building a positive attitude”

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There was a man who made a living selling balloons at a fair. He had all colors of
balloons, including red, yellow, blue, and green. Whenever business was slow, he would release a helium-filled balloon into the air and when the children saw it go up, they all wanted to buy one. They would come up to him, buy a balloon, and his sales would go up again. He continued this process all day. One day, he felt someone tugging at his jacket.

He turned around and saw a little boy who asked, “If you release a black balloon, would that also fly?” Moved by the boy’s concern, the man replied with empathy, “Son, it is not the color of the balloon, it is what is inside that makes it go up.”

The same thing applies to our lives. It is what is inside that counts. The thing inside of us that makes us go up is our attitude.

Have you ever wondered why some individuals, organizations, or countries are more successful than others? It is not a secret. These people simply think and act more effectively. They have learned how to do so by investing in the most valuable asset–people. I believe that the success of an individual, organization or country, depends on the quality of their people.

I have spoken to executives in major corporations all over the world and asked one question: “If you had a magic wand and there was one thing you would want changed, that would give you a cutting edge in the marketplace resulting in increased productivity and profits, what would that be?” The answer was unanimous. They all said that if people had better attitudes, they’d be better team players, and it’d cut down waste, improve loyalty and, in general, make their company a great place to work.

William James of Harvard University said, “The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind.” Experience has shown that human resources is the most valuable asset of any business. It is more valuable than capital or equipment. Unfortunately, it is also the most wasted. People can be your biggest asset or your biggest liability.

TQP–TOTAL QUALITY PEOPLE

Having been exposed to a number of training programs, such as customer service, selling skills, and strategic planning, I have come to the conclusion that all these are great programs with one major challenge: None of them works unless they have the right foundation, and the right foundation is TQP. What is TQP? TQP is Total Quality People–people with character, integrity, good values, and a positive attitude.

Don’t get me wrong. You do need all the other programs, but they will only work when you have the right foundation, and the foundation is TQP. For example, some customer service programs teach participants to say “please,” and “thank-you,” give smiles and handshakes. But how long can a person keep on a fake smile if he does not have the desire to serve? Besides, people can see through him. And if the smile is not sincere, it is irritating. My point is, there has to be substance over form, not form over substance.

Without a doubt, one does need to remember “please” and “thank-you,” the smiles, etc.– they are very important. But keep in mind that they come a lot easier when accompanied by a desire to serve. Someone once approached Blaise Pascal, the famous French philosopher and said, “If I had your brains, I would be a better person.” Pascal replied, “Be a better person and you will have my brains.”

The Calgary Tower stands at 190.8 meters. The total weight of the tower is 10,884 tons, of which 6,349 tons is below ground (approximately 60%). This shows that some of the greatest buildings have the strongest foundations. Just like a great building stands on a strong foundation, so does success. And the foundation of success is attitude.

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You Can Win

A STEP BY STEP TOOL FOR TOP ACHIEVERS

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Winners don’t do different things.
They do things Differently.

Success doesn’t mean the absence of failures; it means the attainment of ultimate
objectives. It means winning the war, not every battle.

Edwin C. Bliss

You have met people who literally wander through life. They simply accept whatever fate brings them. A few may succeed by accident, but most suffer through a lifetime of frustration and unhappiness.

This book is not for them. They have neither the determination to succeed nor the
willingness to devote the time and effort necessary to achieve success. This book is for you. The simple fact that you are reading this book indicates you want to live a richer, more fulfilling life than you have now. This book can enable you to do that.

WHAT KIND OF BOOK IS THIS?

In one sense, this book is a construction manual. It describes the tools you will need for success, and offers blueprints to help you build a successful and rewarding life.

In a second, sense, it is a cookbook. It lists the ingredients the principles you will need to follow to become successful and gives you the recipe for mixing them in the correct proportions. But, above all, this is a guidebook a step by step, how to book that will take you from dreaming about success to unlocking your potential for success.

HOW TO READ THIS BOOK

This book will help you establish new goals, develop a new sense of purpose, and generate new ideas about yourself and your future. It will enable you, as the title suggests, to guarantee yourself a lifetime of success.

But the concepts in this book cannot be absorbed by casual browsing or by gulping the whole book down in one reading. It should be read slowly and carefully, one chapter at a time. Don’t move on to the next chapter until you are sure you understand every concept in the previous chapter.

Use this as a workbook. Write marginal notes to yourself. Use a highlighter as you read and mark those words or sentences or paragraphs that seem vital, or especially applicable to you.

As you read, discuss the concepts in each chapter with your spouse or partner, or with a close friend. A second (and hopefully frank) opinion from someone who knows your strengths and weaknesses can be especially helpful.

START AN ACTION PLAN

One of the purposes of this book is to help you create an Action Plan for the rest of your life. If you have never created an Action Plan, it defines three things:

1. What you want to achieve
2. How you expect to achieve it
3. When you plan to achieve it

As you read this book, keep a notebook handy, divided into three sections: your goals, the stages in which you plan to reach them, and your timetable for success.

By the time you finish reading this book, your notebook will be the foundation on which you can build your new life.

The principles in this book are universal. They are applicable in any situation, organization, or country. As Plato said, “Truths are eternal.” Throughout the book I have used masculine gender, only for the purpose of ease in writing. The principles apply to both genders and are based on the premise that most people fail not because of lack of ability or intelligence but because of lack of desire, direction, dedication, and discipline.

Creating a Better Shift for 2013

To create change first re-interpret your story.

So, 2013 is almost here, and there are some things in your life that you would like to change. Great! With the start of a new year comes the chance to create from a fresh perspective.  But as with any lasting change comes the necessity to check out both the causes and effects of what is currently in play that makes the reality what it is right now. Rather than focusing on merely trying to make change outcomes without understanding and shifting the cause of those outcomes, life can be quite frustrating.

Do not wait until the conditions are perfect to begin. Beginning makes the conditions perfect.~Alan Cohen

Here is a seven step process to consider before and during your work of creating a super great 2013. Try using this inner-to-outer method of creating results with a new foundPersonal Power that is yours to fully express!

1. Gain Awareness: Thoughts Create Reality

Identify your personal story by checking out your current circumstances. Understand that your reality is the effect of the cause: how and what you hold to be true is being played out in your life. For the most part, we all have been conditioned by experiences we had early in life, and typically made up false interpretations that we held on to, and mistakenly use today to frame our reality.

2. Research Your Limiting Beliefs 

Search out the underlying beliefs that are the basis of your personal story, and how you framed them to create the results you now have.  Beliefs are neither ‘good’ or ‘bad’ – they are merely thought energy you are using to support your reality.  See the way you have placed limits on yourself as giving you clues regarding what thoughts, feelings and beliefs typically need to be re-framed.

3. Release and Heal Your Feelings

Get in touch with your feelings. Most likely, some feelings are deeply repressed.  Heal the feeling (over time) by feeling, sharing, and releasing it as it comes up.  See it for what it is, merely a feeling, and not the truth.

4. Check Out What’s True

Step back and check out the truth of your interpretation. Ask yourself, “Is it really true?” It may not be – look at the actual evidence. Here’s your chance to create a new future, based on what you hold as true in your mind. Know this: you have total authority over your thoughts, your feelings, and what you believe. You are the king or queen of your kingdom, and how you express your power is based on what you choose to believe, say, and do. 

5. Claim a New Paradigm

Change the old limiting belief that has been ruling your life up until now.  Check out thereasoning that has supported the limit you have placed on yourself.  For instance, if you have been limiting yourself by not sharing your opinions, your reasoning (excuse?) might be, “because nobody really values what I have to say.” Turn that upside down and overcome your false reasoning (that usually starts with the word “because”) with a new paradigm, such as “I have powerful insights to share that can help others,” or simply, “I contribute powerfully to others.”

6. Step Into Fear and Take Action

Reinforce the new rule, and take consistent action to deepen it.  As you hold in mind and focus on your new paradigm, opportunities will come your way to prove that your new paradigm supports the changes you want to make. (Side note: these new opportunities show up based on the strength of your commitment to your new paradigm, and is often the result of the “Universe” lending a helping hand to make those opportunities possible.

Tuning into and requesting such assistance to be present is a good idea as well.) The bottom line is this: for change to happen you do have to take action! Muster up some courage, take a risk, and step into the opportunity. As you take consistent action and stay focused on your new way of being you gain momentum in bringing your desired reality fully to life.

7. Celebrate Victories

As you see results appear, give yourself a “high five” to reinforce that you made success happen!  Then immediately jump up and down and yell out the window, “I am really, really great! Look what I just accomplished world!” Then settle down, push the ‘hold button’ on over-gloating, and remind yourself that your power rests in what you choose to believe and make real.

Be gentle with yourself, however, for much of what we believe rests in our unconscious mind. Stay vigilant, for when an undesirable and persistent kind of reality appears, remind yourself that you are both the source of that experience, and have the power to create the life you want.

Want to change your life? Then go inner-to-outer to create the life you desire, and know that you have the power and authority to make it happen!

What matters in LIFE does really matter!

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What are the things that really matter in your life? What are the things that matter the most for you? Is it the people or is it the material possessions that seem more important to you?

Is it your family or is it your job? Is it your partner, your children, your friends or is it the money and the power?

When the time will come for you to leave this world, looking back at your life, would you regret not making more money and accumulating more things or would you regret not spending more time with your loved ones?

Here is a beautiful story that I know for sure will help you answer all of these questions and many others:

“A philosophy professor stood before his class with some items on the table in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with rocks, about 2 inches in diameter.

He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles, of course, rolled into the open areas between the rocks.

He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else.
He then asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous “Yes.”

“Now,” said the professor, “I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The rocks are the important things – your family, your partner, your health, your children – things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter – like your job, your house, your car.

The sand is everything else. The small stuff.”

“If you put the sand into the jar first,” he continued “there is no room for the pebbles or the rocks. The same goes for your life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take your partner out dancing. There will always be time to go to work, clean the house, give a dinner party and fix the disposal.

Take care of the rocks first – the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.” Author Unknown

So what are the things that matter the most for you? Share your insights by commenting bellow:

Don’t Focus On The Pain; Focus On The Prize!

Do you believe that your best is yet to come?

You may not feel good about what is happening to your life today. You may be beset by one disappointment after another. Disappointments in your family. Disappointments in your job. Disappointments about your health.

 

You’re reading my message not by some accident.

I believe God made you read this because He wants to tell you, “Don’t give up!” He wants to tell you that you’ve got an amazing, mindboggling, phenomenal Reward waiting for you. Words cannot describe, minds cannot fathom, and imaginations cannot fantasize this out-of-this-world Reward waiting for you…

Friend, God wants you to think of your rewards. When the going gets tough, think of your rewards. When you’re filled with disappointments, think of your rewards. When you feel like you can’t take another step, think of your rewards.

Because if you want to win in life, here’s what you do: Don’t focus on the pain; Focus on the prize!

We Love Rewards

Have you noticed?

We love rewards.

We love trophies, medals, plaques…

We love rewards so much, they have this powerful capacity to transport our minds from dwelling on the pain of today to the prize of tomorrow.

Let me give you an example.

I have this crazy friend—let’s call him James—who runs ultra-marathons. Just in case you don’t know, an ultra marathon is 100 kilometers long.  How far is that? From Manila to Tarlac.

I asked James what was the reward for running an ultra marathon. His answer shocked me. He said, “A T-shirt.”

“A what?” I said. I couldn’t believe my ears.

“A T-shirt,” James said again.

“You’re running 100 kilometers to get a T-shirt. Is it a…uh… branded shirt? The one with a crocodile? Or the one with a guy riding a horse and carrying a stick?”

“Nope. It’s just an ordinary shirt, but it says, I’m an Ultra Marathon Finisher…”

I told James, “Look, you don’t have to run. I can make that T-shirt for you. Tell me what color, size, and shape. I’ll even put your name on it…”

But James said, “Nope, I don’t want your T-shirt. I want the T-shirt that they’ll give me if I finish the race.”

I don’t have plans to run an Ultra Marathon. But from what I hear, at a certain point of the race, each of your legs will weigh like a ton. Each of your legs will feel like they’re as heavy as tree trunks.

But at least for James, that simple reward was enough to lift his legs to take one more step.  And another step. And another step. As he placed one aching foot in front of the other, all he thought about was, “I’ll get that T-shirt… I’ll get that T-shirt…”

And James finished the race.

It’s amazing how our brains are wired to respond to rewards.  Rewards-as-stimuli are encoded in our DNA.  It’s built into our mental architecture.

And Jesus knew human psychology so well.

He said, “Behold, I am coming soon! My reward is with me, and I will give to everyone according to what he has done.”  (Revelation 22:11)

I’ve got an announcement to make: Life is not a sprint; Life is not a 100-meter dash; Life is not even a 400-meter dash; Life is an Ultra Marathon.

I urge you, don’t count in days, weeks, or months. Don’t even count in years. I urge you to start counting in decades. Because everything worthwhile takes time to grow.

It takes time to grow a marriage.

It takes time to grow children.

It takes time to grow a ministry.

It takes time to grow a business.

It takes time to grow a dream.

And I promise you, there will be days in your life when your legs will feel so heavy, they’ll be like tree trunks. There’ll be days when you don’t want to take another step.

But God says, “There’s a reward at the end of your journey. There’s a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. There’s a T-shirt at the end of the marathon.   But it’s no ordinary T-shirt. It’s the Garment of Worship. It’s the Robe of Heaven. It’s the Wardrobe of the Saints. It’s the Cloak of Glory. You will shine like the stars in the sky. You will sing with Angels. You will reign in the Heavenlies.

Until you realize that God is our ultimate Reward.

May your dreams come true,

Bo Sanchez

ROAD TO SUCCESS

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Hi Readers, I just want to share with you my applicant’s inspiring story.

Let’s name him “Jeck”, of course not his real name. He is 29 now and has been exposed to Events Planning, Production Designing, Film Directing and Marketing for almost 11 years. His 7 years was spent with freelance jobs and have worked with different TV stations like GMA 7, ABS-CBN and TV 5. He always excels in Film Directing, Production Designing and Events Organizing. In fact, he received several awards and the most prestigious one was held last 2008 when GAWAD URIAN commended him as one of the BEST PRODUCTION DESIGNER here in the Philippines.When he got a chance to work abroad, in Dubai, he accepted it and thought that it would be a good opportunity for him to earn more for his living. He never dare to think of the ups and downs that he might encounter and since he has a dream, he just nailed it.

During the middle part of the interview, I asked him, “What would you consider as the greatest challenge in your life/career?” He stopped for a while and think. Teary-eyed he said, “Well honestly, having a retarded mom and the fact that she doesn’t knew that she has 2 sons”. When I heard that, I was shocked. I never imagined that a successful person like him would have that kind of situation. He endured that pain since grade school. Imagine your classmate would ask you, “where are your parents?” every PTA meeting, he always say, “I never met my dad and my mom is a retarded so they won’t be able to attend”. His classmates would laugh at him and insult him having a retarded mom. Then I asked him, “How did you managed to overcome that situation?” he said, “I don’t take it as a problem, she’s my mom. I understand her situation more than they do and I love my mom. When they started to insult me? I simply don’t listen to them. I only listen to those people who understand me, those who knows me well.” Jeck never thought of it as a hindrance in pursuing his dreams.

Like Jeck, what would you consider as the greatest challenge in your life? How would you take those challenges? Would you consider having a retarded mom as well?

It’s not how big your problems are rather its how you perceived those obstacles that are on your way to success. Others may dismay you, but never yourself.

Keep moving forward.

Uniquely YOU

I once complained to my father that I didn’t seem to be able to do things the same way other people did. Dad’s advice? ‘Margo, don’t be a sheep. People hate sheep. They eat sheep. ~Margo Kaufman

I still hear people telling me from time to time that I should be more normal and I laugh every time because I think to myself, what is normal anyway? We are all different and diversity is what makes this world so beautiful. If we all start wearing the same clothes, thinking, talking and behaving in the exact same way, life will no longer be as interesting as it is now. Why would anyone want to live in a world like that, why would anyone waste their time and energy in TRYING as hard as possible to be NORMAL?

Be a first rate version of yourself, not a second rate version of someone else. ~Judy Garland,

Diversity is such an incredible thing and even though we can’t all be friends with one another that doesn’t mean we can’t accept and embrace our differences, since this is what makes us all unique. Life is beautiful because of the diversity present all around us and not because of the many people who are constantly trying to act as normal as possible just so they won’t be noticed, judged and criticized by others.

So here is why you should no longer care about being normal

1. INSANITY –  TO BE NORMAL IS TO BE INSANE

Think about it. Who in their right minds would walk through life without questioning their own BELIEFS – beliefs that were handed down to them by their parents, their teachers, and friends mass media, etc.; without questioning their WAY OF THINKING – they think at 30, 40, 70 the same way they were thinking when they were 20 years old, not realizing the impact thoughts have on their level of happiness;  without questioning their NORMAL BEHAVIOR and without questioning what life is really all about?

Normal is not something to aspire to, it’s something to get away from. ~Jodie Foster

2. COURAGE – IT TAKES GREAT COURAGE TO BE DIFFERENT

When will you understand that being normal isn’t necessarily a virtue? It rather denotes a lack of courage. ~Unknown

It takes courage to step outside the norms and be different; it takes courage to say NO to the so called normal and just embrace your real essence, to embrace who you really are deep down inside and BE YOURSELF without the fear of being judged, labeled and criticized by those around you.

Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You. ~Dr. Seuss

3. ACHIEVEMENT – NOTHING GREAT WAS EVER ACHIEVED BY NORMAL PEOPLE

To be normal is the ideal aim of the unsuccessful. ~Carl Gustav Jung

Great things can only be achieved by those who let go of the need to label themselves as being normal, by those who have the courage to step away from the crowd and embrace their uniqueness. There’s no need to pretend you’re normal anymore since normal is not necessary something to aspire to but rather something you need to heal yourself from.

I sometimes ask myself how it came about that I was the one to develop the theory of relativity. The reason, I think, is that a NORMAL adult never stops to think about problems of space and time. These are things which he has thought about as a child. ~Albert Einstein

4. EXCITEMENT – TO BE DIFFERENT IS A REAL ADVENTURE

Normal people don’t have much fun since they are so busy doing the things normal people do, worrying about the many things normal people worry and stressing about the many things normal people stress about. It’s so liberating to JUST BE who you want to be and live YOUR life according to your own rules and not the rules of other, without hurting anyone in the process of course.

Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing. ~Hellen Keller

5. IMAGINATION – UNIQUENESS REQUIRES IMAGINATION

It is quite easy to be normal, everybody can do it but it takes great courage, skills, imagination and creativity to be different from the rest of the world and trust me, the world needs more people like that, the world is thirsty for uniqueness.

For me, insanity is super sanity. The normal is psychotic. Normal means lack of imagination, lack of creativity. ~Jean Dubuffet